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Oyebanji Funmilola
'If only Pain is transferable.
If only Failure is nothing but an illusion.
If only Disappointment is avoidable.
If only Heartbreak happens only in the movies.
If only Death is just but a myth.
If only Some Tragedies can be averted.
If only... '
Sadly, the numbers of 'if's' you express does not matter anymore, even the 'calculated and well strategized layout of event still turned up badly, the deed has been done already!
At that moment, a shocking shiver you never know existed is sent all through your spine, all the hair on your body seems to stand as if summoned by a call, you suddenly lose all the strength you thought you had thereby finding anything nearest to sink into, your body temperature seem to be playing trick on you as you feel both hot and cold at the same time, your head get bigger and lighter by the minute, sadness overwhelms you and all you see is nothing, series of thoughts are flying through your head and you can't seem to coordinate them.
Then, the sharp pain comes and all you feel like doing is screaming so loud the world will shake and letting out the tear drops...
That is actually the best thing to do at such moments, the truth is Crying is not an act of weakness neither does it mean you are hopeless, it simply means you are responding to how you feel emotionally. Tears are positive representation of who you are. Scientifically, it has been proven that crying makes you feel better. In reality, people who cry are actually very strong, however, the point here is, Knowing When To Stop.
Some life happenings are just so unconsolable you may say. Well, the choice is yours, whether to continue wallowing in tears and self pity or to stand up and face reality, yes reality. Before then, you might want to ask yourself, "Will the litres of tears I shed if measured bring back my loss?" "Will my isolation from others reinstate my loss?". If No, then, here is how to dry up and start up...
Don't entertain over consolation/sympathy :
Often than not, it has been discovered that over consolation seems to encourage tears flow continuously giving you opportunity to release fresh hot liquid. OK, let's get this straight. Sympathizers try to be nice and all but they seem to forget one most times need to be left alone to cry all you want and then make the decision to Stop. It's not disputable that some people when left alone in their moment of sorrow and grief could contemplate Suicide which is nothing but cowardice and unwise. Such people fail to weigh their options right, for instance, If one happen to lose a loved one, if they are saved, they are in heaven - great for them. If they are not, it's sad but there is nothing to be done for them anymore. If it's a break up, he/she most probably will not come back again, likewise the sad and gloomy face will not bring them back, not even the suicidal mission, they will simply continue living and enjoying life while you get tormented in hell for taking your life and also make News headlines here on earth with 'Stories that touch the heart'.It will be tough, yes, really really tough but when rightly considered, you'ld find out that staying sad with face all wetted up will help nothing. Your decision after the ordeal matters most.
Cry out
Just let the drops fall. Some people try to form strong by not crying out, it is misleading and foolish to think that 'Strong people don't cry'. People with such mental attitude find it difficult to let go and move out fast in life because there is a poison killing them slowly while pretending to be healthy on the outside when they fail to release the toxic emotions within them. So, Cry out!You will also do well by counting your blessings, in the midst of it all when deeply thought, you'ld come to the realization that you are still a Beneficiary of God's Blessing because there's always something worth thanking God for and acknowledging Him as the true giver of Joy and Peace.
"A strong person is the one who cries and shed tears for a moment, then gets up and fight again ".
Are you???
#Biggirlscrythenfly.
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