Rights & Responsibilities for People in Intimate Relationships.
Human Rights and Responsibilities for Women and Men In Intimate Relationships
The right to share equally with your partner all decisions and responsibilities related to your relationship, children, home and finances. The responsibility to make legal, mentally healthy and financially responsible decisions regarding those responsibilities. The right to share equally with your mate in all financial decisions. The responsibility to pay for your share of expenses.
The right to have friendships outside of your relationship as long as you do not violate the mutually agreed upon privacy of your relationship with your partner. See state laws on adultery as sexual assault as well as rape via deception:
The right to express your opinions and thoughts and have those be given the same respect and consideration as those of your mate. The responsibility to ensure that you are as mentally, psychologically, emotionally, physically, and sexually healthy as you can be.
The right to have and express your sexual needs and desires without feeling like you are selfish, demanding, or aggressive. The responsibility to respect when your partner says no.
The right to have your emotional, physical and intellectual needs be as important as the needs of your mate. The responsibility to acnkowledge that women and men have the same emotional, intellectual, and psychological capabilities barring any cognitive or psychological disabilities.
The right to expect your mate to do his/her part to resolve any conflicts in your relationship, including learning and improving emotional intelligence skills, conflict resolution skills, and communication skills. The responsibility to learn all of these skills from credible, certified trainers.
The right to hold your mate responsible for his or her behavior rather than assuming that responsibility yourself or being held responsible for your partner’s behavior by him or her. The responsibility to be held accountable for your own behavior.
The right to seek credible professional help with your relationship (with a qualified person grounded in academic study). The responsibility to attend credible professional help if your partner asks for that — unless there is verbal or physical abuse happening, in which case, couples’ therapy is contra-indicated and individual therapy is advised for both partners, separately.
The right never to be physically attacked or emotionally degraded by your mate and the right to end the relationship (and to seek safety), if either occurs, even if this does not happen directly to the partner’s face but to others. The responsibility to respect abused partner’s desire to end the relationship and to attend counseling sessions for partners who batter.
The right to expect significant behavioral changes rather than mere apologies and promises from your partner if a single abusive incident occurs – emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually. The responsibility to attend counseling sessions for partners who batter and to do all you can to change behavior.
The right to not blame yourself if the relationship in which you have invested so much love and effort ends. The responsibility to take excellent care of yourself, ask for help when you need it, be honest with yourself and others, and surround yourself with healthy, ethical, supportive people who care about your best interests.
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